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Online Dating Gets a Little Less VirtualMatch.com, one of the largest online dating services, is acquainting itself with the real world via Stir, a new event service that will host up to 3,000 singles parties a year. They'll be hitting 24 cities come June. Andrew Bret Wallis—GettyimagesOnline dating, it’s now universally agreed, has its limits. Among the two biggest glitches: dates who look nothing like their profile pictures and dates who are happy to email but decline to ever actually go on a bodily, non-virtual date. In an effort to combat such digital diversionary tactics, one of the biggest online dating services, Match.com, has decided to get people out from behind their computers to come out and play. Ironic, no? Regular dating has its glitches ... Continue reading →
The Detached Dad’s ManifestoHow fathers can contribute by just chilling out Jekaterina Nikitina / Getty ImagesAdvocates of attachment parenting might claim that their proscriptions are gender neutral, but we fathers know the truth. Regardless of our best intentions as equal partners, attachment parenting is really attachment mothering. It’s the mother who has to keep constant vigil over her diet while pregnant to ward off suboptimal fetal intelligence. She’s the one who is encouraged to suffer authentically during natural childbirth. Dads can give back rubs and coach her on deep breathing, but those are just grains of sand thrown into an ocean of labor pain. At home, a father can be the most valiant promoter of mother’s milk, waking for the 3 a.m. feedings and stripping ... Continue reading →
How Feminism Begat Intensive MotheringContrary to popular belief, intensive mothering is the product of the rise of women in society CorbisA rally for passage of the Equal Rights Amendment, October 12, 1981Feminism and motherhood have long been cast as feuding sisters, one always attempting to undermine the other. In this calculation, women had to choose between the independence, education and self-expression of the feminist path and the nurture, sacrifice and child-centricity of the family path. The more feminist a woman is, the less appetite, it has been suggested, she will have for mothering. Ironically, however, the opposite is true. Women’s rising social and economic power has not squelched their desire to be mothers. Quite the opposite: it has enabled women to mother with ferocity. They ... Continue reading →
