Mom doesn't want to leave her comfortable little apartment, but she's said if he really wants her there for a time, she should do it. My fear is that the move could make her dementia worse. My brother says he just wants to spend more time with Mom, but he's never been that close so the only true motivation that I can see is that he knows how expensive AL is and he's struggling financially. I think that he wants to save the estate money. I'm not trying to keep Mom in my town to be selfish.
Dear AE: I'm so sorry that you had such a difficult childhood and, like so many, you continue to experience fallout from it. Because you've read some of my other work, you know that there is no need for you to feel guilty about not taking on the caregiving role. In fact, taking over the care of your mother wouldn't likely be good for either of you.Since your mother is in a nursing home she is being cared for. If you can visit her occasionally, that would be good.
Dear BY: I can understand your frustration. It's frightening to see these changes in our aging parents and those feelings can come out as frustration and even anger. The other side of that, though, is that your elder's dignity and independence are as important to her as the air that she breathes.It sounds as if your mom hasn't been diagnosed by a doctor so dementia may or may not be what is behind her behavior. From your examples, the problem could actually be failing eyesight.
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