Dear CL: I'm sorry to hear about your mother's death. After providing close care for so long, you are dealing with a major life change which makes adjustment extra hard. Your jumbled emotions are part of the legacy of long-term caregiving, so what you're going through is completely normal.Caregivers seem to have built-in guilt. Should we have made different decisions? What could we have done better? There is no end to what we can find to feel guilty about.
Dear RT: It's unfortunate that your siblings aren't catching on faster, but sadly this isn't unusual. The fact that they don't see your mom regularly most likely makes the changes in her somewhat shocking to them. This, in turn, causes them to slip back into the panic mode of trying to make Mom function as she did before the disease.
Dear DG: Your initial feeling of being overwhelmed and just wanting to dump everything is normal, so allow those thoughts to surface and then go with your common sense. Accept that whatever you do, you'll have to be involved enough to decide what you want to save.Many people in situations like yours hire someone to come in and help weed through things. I'd suggest that you consider this option.
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