I think it's an old Three Stooges routine. Moe slaps Larry across the face. Larry looks unconcerned, but Curly yells "Ouch!" and takes on Moe. It is a strange idea, which is why we find it somewhat amusing. One person is hurt, but another shows the pain and tries to stop it. Truth, though, is even stranger than fiction. In our families, it often happens that while one part of the family is hurting, another part shows the pain and even tries to ease it. It's the Three Stooges, but for real.
I just finish my third (or is it fourth?) phone call this week trying to figure out which family members are gathering where on which holiday. It seems that the older we get the more complex this transaction becomes. This year it involves four generations of relatives and more than 30 people. It's easy at times like this for me to remember just how important family is, and how much influence it has over my life.
Editor's note: This is the final column in a three-part series. A number of years ago, I worked as a therapist with families in which child abuse had occurred. Such situations are always difficult for everybody involved. I found one aspect, however, to be particularly troublesome. Though physically abused, and often neglected, the children in these families usually refused to tell me what had happened. Try as I might, they remained silent or evasive.
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