‘And what do I mean by romantic loving? I define it as being passionate, meaning that it includes sexual attraction, even if it’s not realized. It’s personal, meaning that it’s love of an individual, which differentiates it from spiritual love. It involves the hope that it will last, which makes it different from lust. It also involves a yearning to be together.‘‘For the existentialists, “existence precedes essence,” meaning that there are no soulmates, no perfect matches, no other halves.