Q: We have been matched with an expectant mother who is already raising a six-year-old and knows she cannot parent another child. She seems extremely worried about telling her son that his new baby sibling will be adopted by another family. How could she explain this to him? Also, we are planning on an open adoption; how can we help the siblings feel connected despite living apart? A: My advice to the expectant mother would be to start by remembering how smart our children are!