I rescued a cat from my local shelter a month ago, and I love her to bits. However, the experience of raising her has convinced me that I would probably be a TERRIBLE mother. Here's why. My boyfriend has had a cat for the past five years. We started dating about a year after he got her (for the curious, she’s a Maine coon named Arya), and although I grew up with dogs, the cat and I gradually came to a mutual understanding that we are not rivals for his affection.