I was born in Bangladesh and raised in Thailand, the eldest child in an arranged marriage. My parents performed as their culture decreed: The care, raising, and feeding of us kids was Momma’s domain. Papa’s was work, finances, and discipline. He reigned over his land and we, his subjects, with severity and love. Momma lived a tightly sequestered life, her personality knotted to a short leash. She hadn’t always lived that way.