More than two years after I was violently raped by a man I knew, after being ignored and let down by both the police and other organisations, I chose to name my abuser on social media. Known as rape shaming, when victims of sexual assaults publicly out their abusers, it is becoming more and more common. A man I knew, who I considered a friend, invited me to his apartment in Sydney to hang out, eat pizza and have a drink. He kissed me. We started having consensual sex, but it quickly turned violent.