Sudden unexpected death in epilepsy is a recurring calamity, yet there is little evidence to guide standards of care for supporting the bereaved. Grief in bereavement includes loss, feelings of guilt, anger and blame. There is also the shock and trauma of the sudden event. How can this be alleviated? This paper focuses on guiding the physician to support the bereaved, while recognising the limited evidence and the varying circumstances that may not always facilitate this.