So your bestie has a new love, only that new love is hitting on you bigtime. Which one do you talk to first, and how? You have issues. In our new The Q advice column, our Life Judge helps. You know how queer friends can feel more like family than our actual family? I have one friend who is as important to me as any sibling. We've been there for each other through ups, downs, girls, women and more girls and women. When she finally found what she thought was the woman of her dreams, I was so happy.