8. Be sure to ask what the bride expects from you. Some just want you by their side on the day, while others want you to hold their hand through the whole process. 9. Check whether she wants to assign different tasks to each bridesmaid. She may have roles set aside for people. 10. If you live far away, your role is to provide moral support. Like her social media wedding posts, reply to her emails, make sure she knows you’re there for her, even if you’re miles apart. 11.