In 2015, when I was 43 years old, I was admitted to New York Presbyterian’s inpatient psychiatric hospital. It was my third time at the psych ward; my third time being strapped onto a gurney and driven in an ambulance from Manhattan to a mental ward in Westchester; my third time standing shoeless as a security guard checked my clothing for metal, strings, and mirrors. Every time, there was a new item on the contraband list. This time, it was hard plastic — so my water bottle was out.
For the last 15 years, I’ve been looking for love on the internet. And when I tell you it’s been a long 15 years, I’m not exaggerating. Countless hours have been spent in front of my computer or looking down at my phone, revising my dating profiles, picking out cute pictures and trying to come off as smart, cute, and funny. In all my years trolling the interwebs for a man, I’ve only dated three men—if by “dated” you mean “been out on more than one date with”.
In all my dealings with men, I’d never had the opportunity to verbally consent. Yes, I’m a feminist. Yes, rape culture and sexual assault. I gave sexual health and awareness lectures in college. But I’d spent my sexual career communicating non-verbally with my partners and thinking that it was enough. Perhaps I’d never chosen to be with a man that I really didn’t want to be with. Maybe I’d thought that Black men weren’t as knowledgeable about consent practices, so I didn’t hold them to it.
Muck Rack makes it simple to find people, tweets, or articles that mention any name, keyword, company, hashtag etc. We've compiled this guide to help you make the most of your search.
Selecting a term
Start searching tweets, articles from media outlets, articles mentioned in tweets, journalists'
names, titles and bios with some suggested searches:
Companies or Topics (e.g. iPhone, Microsoft)
Phrases (e.g. "cloud computing") — use quotes to keep the terms together
Twitter handles (e.g. @username) — returns those who have mentioned or replied to
Names (e.g. "David Pogue")
Hashtags (e.g. #sxsw, #london2012)
Bio details (e.g. vegan, Olympics, father)
Muck Rack's Advanced Search allows for many boolean operators.
Find results that mention multiple specified terms, use AND or
+. For example, ensure each result contains both Elon Musk and Mark Zuckerberg by
searching Musk AND Zuckerberg or Musk + Zuckerberg.
Use the operators OR or , to broaden your search when you'd like either of
multiple terms to appear in results. (This is the default behavior of our search when no operators
are used). For example, results will contain either cake or cookie by searching cake OR cookie or cake,cookie
Use NOT or - to subtract results from your search. For
example, searching Disney will yield results about the Walt Disney Company as well as Walt Disney
World Resort. To exclude mentions of Disney World, search for Disney -World or Disney
When using one of these operators with a phrase, enclose it in quotation marks. For example, you can
find results about smartphones excluding Apple's iPhone 4S by searching smartphone -"iPhone
Exact case matching or punctuation
If you're searching for a brand name or keyword that relies on specific punctuation marks or capitalization, you can
find results that match your exact query by adding matchcase: before the keyword you're searching for, like matchcase:E*TRADE .
Use parentheses to separate multiple
boolean phrases. For example, to find journalists talking about having fun in Disney World or
Disneyland, search for ("disney world" OR disneyland) AND fun.
An asterisk can be used to search for any variation of a root word truncated by the asterisk. For example, searching for admin* will return results for administrator, administration, administer, administered, etc.
A near operator is an AND operator where you can control the distance between the words. You can vary the distance the near operation uses by adding a forward slash and number (between 0-99) such as strawberries NEAR/10 "whipped cream", which means the strawberries must exist within 10 words of "whipped cream".