When I learned about narcissistic abuse, it was like a veil lifted. I thought, 'there's a name for this terrible pain, chaos and confusion in my life!'. I was someone with a career I loved, a doctorate, I ran marathons, I was an active mum, yet at home I wasn't ok. I never knew what mood my (now ex) husband would be in. I could never get it right. I was a strong, confident person, and yet, over time, I found my nervous system becoming overwhelmed and frazzled.