Shared custody, especially around this time of year, can be tough, but it's a fact of life for a large number of parents and children. It's certainly no one's ideal scenario. I've heard legend of families where parents gather together for celebratory dinners and exes are like part of the extended, big, happy family. I personally don't know anyone fortunate enough to have such a set up. I do, however, know a lot of parents who are not looking forward to celebrating without their child(ren).