We have given ourselves two more years, ample time to continue spreading out in this friendly, comfy, century-old house. Two more years, my mother’s daughter whispers, to keep weeding, scrubbing, repainting the wrought-iron fence…. By the time we leave, we will be thoroughly ready for a smaller, more practical, inevitably less charming abode. This is what people do at our age. Downsizing, it is called. A horrid corporate word, cloaking rejection and existential panic.