Dear Trinity, I met someone who is really great, but “really” married. I can’t decide whether to spend time with him or not. Is it really that wrong to date someone married? Undecided, Indianapolis, INDear Undecided, Yes, it’s wrong, but that’s never stopped anyone. Dating a married man can promise an exciting life of espionage, risk and intrigue, but it also guarantees a life of problems, headaches and heartaches.