Shifting the Food Narrative

The first boyfriend I ever had died last week—Steve Silberman, 66, of San Francisco: science writer, beloved author of NeuroTribes: The Legacy of Autism and the Future of Neurodiversity, David Crosby acolyte, Deadhead. Using boyfriend to describe Steve is pathetic, I know, but in ten years together, we never really knew what to call each other. Partners wasn’t used like that in the 1980s, not in the San Francisco we knew. Lovers was icky.