Just four hours earlier, Sallie Cutler had been sharing Mother’s Day lunch with her mom, Alyce Cheatham. Then, that same evening, Cheatham, 96, landed in a Portland, Ore., emergency room, lethargic, unable to speak and paralyzed on her right side by a massive stroke. Cutler now admits her first impulse was to demand action. “It’s, like, do something; make her better,” said Cutler. “As a child, you can’t just say let her die.”But Cheatham’s medical records contained a different demand.