ATHENS — Not so long ago, I wrote about the "invisible" chores that men struggle to see, especially, in raising children. A reader sent me this message in response: “I think sometimes it can also be on us women who make it so that men aren’t implicated. You end up thinking — 'it’ll be quicker if I just do this, it’ll take just five minutes, since I know how to do it.’ And it’s important to say: ‘it doesn’t always have to be me. In fact, what would happen if I wasn’t here?