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7 Masturbation Tips for Men to Last Longer in Bed
Tudo sobre Sexo is a space for sharing stories, curiosities and sexual experiences. I wrote down everything my guy friends told me they do. Press enter or click to view image in full size Here’s what I heard most often from my friends. Seven habits they use during masturbation so they can last much longer with a partner. Long sessions, not “quick bathroom rushes” They stopped finishing in 2 minutes hiding from the world. They block 15–20 minutes, low lights, phone away, no hurry.
Why You Shouldn’t Take Women Too Seriously
The hard reality! Press enter or click to view image in full size You take her words to heart and get sick when her actions don’t match. You say she’s “different” because she sent three sweet voice notes and two heart emojis. Then she disappears for an entire weekend and comes back like nothing happened. You swallow it. Not because you’re weak, but because you need the story to be true. That’s where you lose yourself.
Why Erections Disappear With Age
And how to stop it Press enter or click to view image in full size You notice your erection takes longer to show up, loses strength halfway, or disappears when you put the condom on. You start avoiding sex because you’re afraid to fail. You say you’re tired, blame stress, drink “to relax” and get worse. Your body is sending clear signals. An erection is blood going in and staying in the penis.
Women Want the Dream Life Without Sacrifice
Whose fault is it? Press enter or click to view image in full size Expectations are shooting up and patience is crashing. Pinterest house, pricey trips, pretty wedding, kids “at the right time,” fit body, a career that pays for everything, and still time for brunch. Almost no one counts the cost. When the bill lands, the question hits: whose fault is it? Culture that sells fantasy as the norm.
ChatGPT Is Making You Dumber
You’re not even noticing it… Press enter or click to view image in full size People are outsourcing thinking. Instead of reasoning, they ask for ready-made answers. Result: worse memory, weaker focus, fewer connections between ideas. You call it “productivity.” I call it atrophy. Here’s the pattern: open the chat, ask for structure, arguments, examples. Copy. Paste. Your brain doesn’t struggle, so it doesn’t learn. Like GPS: use it every time and you forget the route.
Pee on My Face, Please.
Is it normal to like getting peed on during sex? Press enter or click to view image in full size You read that and your body does a micro-flinch. Your head says “gross,” your gut says “hmm.” Dress it up in Sunday morals if you want, pretend you’re above it — but here’s the truth: sex messes with power, surrender, and boundaries. “Pee on my face” sits right there, where shame rubs against arousal. Normal? Normal is whatever your body consents to and enjoys. Everything else is hallway gossip.
The 5 Biggest Mistakes Women Make in Bed
Avoid these mistakes to keep your man happy. Press enter or click to view image in full size I’m not here to lecture you. I’m here because I like sex that leaves our knees shaking and has us laughing after. And because I see a lot of women — smart, desired, fuckable — sabotaging their own pleasure with small things that kill the vibe. I’m talking to you, straight on: if you want a happy man (and you happy too), avoid these five screwups. This isn’t about pleasing some random dude.
This Is How a GANGBANG Actually Works
What separates Fantasy vs. Reality Press enter or click to view image in full size Want fantasy? Close your eyes and blast music. Want reality? Sit with me. I’m not selling morals or asking permission. I’m talking about sex with multiple people at once — bodies crossing, hands where you ask, mouths where you want, eyes burning on your skin.
How to Eat Ass
Ask, prep, and make me come Press enter or click to view image in full size I’m not here to teach you a circus trick. I’m here because I love good sex, with brain and body, and because I know plenty of people still freeze just thinking about this. Breathe. Rimming isn’t an exam, a purity test, or a naughty scoreboard. It’s intimacy. It’s two people choosing to fuck better with more confidence, more pleasure, and fewer hang-ups.
Half-staff For Him Isn’t Supremacy, It’s Civilization
Honoring the victim and condemning the shot doesn’t “canonize” ideas; it’s the basic rule in a democracy that rejects violence as a method. Press enter or click to view image in full size I’m not left or right. I don’t play for your party or hers. I play for civics. That’s why I’m writing this: reducing a public mourning rite — lowering the flag to half-staff — to an ideological endorsement is confusing a civic ritual with propaganda.
He Left A Patient Mid-Surgery To Have Sex With A Nurse.
You're lying there, under general anesthesia, monitors beeping, and the doctor says he's going to the bathroom. He leaves the room in the middle of your operation and goes to have sex with a nurse in another theater. Eight minutes later he comes back and, apparently, "everything went fine." Breathe, because this really happened. It was at Tameside General Hospital, Greater Manchester. The doctor is Suhail Anjum, 44, a consultant anesthetist. The patient was under general anesthesia.
He Could Have Fucked Me More in Bed, But God Didn't Let Me
I met him on some random Tuesday. I left work late, ducked into the corner café, hair thrown up in a rush. He was there, leaning on the counter. We traded two lines, a smile, I stayed. The next day he came back. On the third, he sat next to me. By the fifth, it felt like we'd known each other for years. I didn't see a ring. I saw someone who made me feel chosen. The first time happened on a Friday night. Kisses in the car, hands in a hurry, bodies asking for more. We fucked in the back seat.
Why Morning Wood Fades With Age
Morning erections are your body's built-in systems check. They happen in REM sleep. When they start disappearing, that's a signal: weaker circulation, lower testosterone, poor sleep, high stress, extra belly fat, or meds getting in the way. The penis just reports what the rest of your body is already feeling.
The #1 Cause of Low Libido in Men
The number one reason your libido is on the floor is low testosterone or your head and your habits killing testosterone day after day. It's not bad luck. It's routine. What you do every day is switching desire off like a light. You sleep too little. You eat junk. You drink "just a couple" that turn into three. You sit for hours. You "train" without lifting real weight. You're in the dark on your phone watching porn that scrambles your brain, then complain that nothing fires in real life.
23 Signs Your Body Needs More Nutrients
I had this straight-up talk with Cláudia Lopes, a nurse, longtime friend, and part of the All About Sex publisher. We compared notes on what we keep seeing: people wiped out, skin struggling, moods zig-zagging, libido on the floor. A lot of this isn't "drama." It's the body asking for raw materials. Here's the gist - direct, practical, and worth checking - no fluff, just what works and what you should evaluate.
Why Women Should Ask Men Out
Seriously, stop with that crap. Press enter or click to view image in full size Waiting around is a weak strategy. Those "subtle signals" aren't signals. They're noise. He doesn't read minds. Neither do you. If you want it? Ask. When I started asking, everything changed. The conversation got clean. The anxiety dropped. The respect rose. Clarity is sexy. Period. You're scared of hearing no. Normal. Me too. Now answer straight: Do you want an honest no today or three months of ambiguity eating you alive?
The Real Reasons Women Choose Anal Sex
There isn't one reason. There are many. Some are good, some are bullshit. Some bring pleasure, some bring regret. I've lived both: nights that went well because there was respect, lube, and patience; nights that went badly because someone wanted to prove something instead of listening to the body. Here's the truth: this isn't a trick. It's choice, context, and consent. Curiosity matters. You want to feel something different. Get off the predictable script.
4 Best Sex Positions for Female Orgasms, Based on Science
You want more orgasms. Keep it simple. Direct, steady clitoral stimulation. Positions are tools for that. If there's no useful contact, there's no climax. Everything else is ego making noise. This is practical reflection. Not medical advice. It's field work, testing, adjusting. You decide your body. You decide the pace. You decide when to stop. Three ground rules before you start. Contact first. Consistency next. Short, clear communication. No speeches.
What Turns a Woman On the Most
What turns a woman on most is confident, respectful action. Clarity with consent. Presence in your body, not in your head. Not theory - practice: touch with intention, a gaze that holds, a kiss that leads, words that show where you're going without apologizing for being there. Not aggressive. Firm, attentive, steady. There's no magic length of time. There's direction. Some days quick is perfect. Some nights everything asks for slow.
Would You Ask Your Partner To Take A Fertility Test?
If you want kids, fertility is a two-person thing. Period. A semen analysis isn't an insult; it's basic logistics. Like a blood test tells you how your blood is doing, a semen analysis tells you how your chances look. The sooner you know, the more choices you have. Asking for a test isn't an attack. It's saying: I want to decide with you, with data. If the answer is yes, great, move forward. If it's no, ask why. Fear? Ego? Shame? All understandable, but none of that makes babies. Information builds a plan.
This Is What Abusive Unconditional Love Leads To
This scene is from the movie Titanic, a 1997 romantic drama directed by James Cameron. The actors in the photo are Leonardo DiCaprio and Kate Winslet, playing the main characters, Jack Dawson and Rose DeWitt Bukater. Unconditional love sounds lovely until the day you're asked to pay the bill with your sanity. Some people use that idea to stay above any consequence. The hidden game goes like this: I do what I want; you stay, you like, you care, you keep quiet.
Why Do We Love Doggy Style?
Doggy style is popular because it works. It gives angle, control, and orgasms with less talking. For the penetrating partner, manage depth and pace. For the receiving partner, the right spot gets easier to hit. And yes, the view helps. No fluff: this position delivers when you know what you're doing. The core is angle + clitoris + lube. Pillow under the hips, knees a bit wider, pelvis slightly tilted. With clitoral stimulation, the response spikes. Use your hand, a bullet, or mattress friction.
This Woman Is Constantly Sexually Aroused
You deal with desire, with want, with lust, with highs and lows. But you switch off. You go to work, laugh with friends, watch a show, sleep. Now take away the off switch. Leave the body stuck in almost with no rest, no real relief, no pause. Electric pain climbing your legs, a hot weight low in your belly, your head throbbing. It isn't sexy. It isn't cool. It's silent torture. It's called PGAD Persistent Genital Arousal Disorder.
How Free Porn Sites Really Work
You open the site, hit play, and that is it. Free. Or it looks like it. What you do not see is an industrial machine grinding traffic, data, bodies, lawsuits, and money. People call it Big Porn for a reason. This is not a neighborhood of links. It is a conglomerate with a holding company, hedge fund debt, lawyers on speed dial, and a strategy plenty of mainstream media would envy.
My Wife Is Hiding a Man in Our House
I found XL underwear in our closet. I've worn L forever. I didn't "gain weight." I didn't buy it by mistake. It's not mine. There are also random T-shirts with a deodorant scent I don't use. "Fresh arctic something." I wear unscented. The closet smells like someone who doesn't live here. She started comparing me to "someone." "Some people mount a TV without a manual." "Some people cook better than restaurants." "Some people run 10k without training." Who's 'some people'?
What Is The Role Of Women In Society?
When you think of "role," do you see a label on your forehead or a skin you wear from the inside? There is no single role. There is power. And that power has an annoying trait: when someone tries to box it in, it rips the box, flips the lid, and moves on. Some call that being complicated. I call it reality. It is not drama, it is engineering. The same person who leads a meeting at 9 a.m. is the one who reads invisible signals at 9 p.m. and knows when silence weighs more than a shout. It is not magic.
Two Men Swapped Wives For A Day
The idea was born where dumb ideas bulk up. Greasy bar counter, warm beer, cold ego. One guy looks at the other and says, "Wanna swap wives for a day?" They laugh like they just cured boredom. That laugh guys do when they confuse bold with stupid. They scribbled "rules" on a wet napkin. Twenty-four hours, no names, no drama, treat the "guest" like a queen. The napkin didn't sign a thing and still got soaked in shame. Both women heard it.
My Neighbor Trapped Me In The Elevator
The night started loud. City sirens in the distance, a TV from somewhere down the hall, my upstairs neighbor dragging a chair across tile like he was trying to carve the moon. I was in the kitchen, hair up, bleach on my hands, scrubbing a pan that didn't deserve the effort. The apartment smelled like lemon cleaner and a little bit of old arguments. He texted he'd be late. Again. Boys' night. Again. I stared at the screen until my reflection looked like a stranger.
You’re More Attractive Than You Think.
You’re More Attractive Than You Think. Not everyone’s going to like you. You’re not here to please everyone or to “win” every person, every job, every room. My take is simple: attraction isn’t a referendum, it’s a fit. Sometimes you’re not someone’s “type”; other times context, family, culture, or timing get in the way. None of that says anything about your worth. Once this lands, everything changes: you stop selling yourself short, stop playing games, stop asking for permission to exist.
6 Tips to Make Your Relationship Stronger
Want a stronger relationship? Let’s swap “luck in love” for habits in love. Simple, direct — and yeah, a little humor so it goes down easy. • Never use breakups as a weapon. Dropping “then let’s just end it” kills safety. Try: “This matters to me — how do we fix it together?” Problems get solved; trust gets built. • Don’t say “I’m fine” when you’re not. That’s emotional ghosting. Try: “I’m upset right now. Give me 20 minutes, then let’s talk.” Honesty + timing = respect. • If you say sorry, mean it.
Why Aren’t You Happy?
You keep fine‑tuning your life like it’s a buggy app — new morning routine, new supplements, new planner… same empty feeling. How many times have you jumped from “something’s off” to “just tell me what to do,” only to land right back at square one? We sprint toward “solutions” because staying with awareness feels like standing in a burning room. But awareness is the door. Action comes after. Your body’s been telling you the truth for years. The fatigue that never lifts.
Love with a 43-year age gap: taboo or maturity?
Unpopular opinion: age doesn’t measure character, care, or consent — behavior does. When we see “34 + 77,” lots of people jump straight to “gold-digging” or “manipulation.” What if we switched the lens to daily conversation, respect, clear agreements, and a real shared future? What should matter (in any relationship): • Financial autonomy for both (not a bank-account fairy tale). • Radical communication about health, boundaries, and the future. Think about it: if it were 34 + 27, would you blink?
Your Body Is Warning You
Your Body Is Warning You You’re standing there, fridge door open. Silence. What did you come here for? Gone. Your keys? In the freezer. Again. That person’s name? On the tip of your tongue… and it slips away. You read the same paragraph three times. Nothing sticks. But you’ve got 14 tabs open. Congrats: CEO of Useless Multitasking, Inc. It’s not “you being dumb.” It’s your body screaming: chronic distraction. The habit? Multitasking + endless scrolling (especially at night).
How To Find Yourself?
How To Find Yourself? If you feel lost, it’s not because you’re weak. It’s because your map is outdated and your compass keeps pointing toward other people’s approval. You don’t need a guru. You need enough quiet to hear yourself again. A tree doesn’t grow where it’s hard and thick; it grows where it’s soft, green, and vulnerable. So do you. You grow where you allow yourself to feel. Where you drop the shell for five minutes. Where you don’t have to prove anything. “I’ve been through so much.” I know.
Una nueva investigación desacredita una crítica común a la transparencia salarial
Durante años, se ha aconsejado a los gerentes que eviten la transparencia salarial entre los empleados de base, pero nuestra investigación, que utiliza las calificaciones de satisfacción con la compensación de los empleados de más de 1,300 empresas que cotizan en bolsa, muestra que esta puede no ser siempre la opción más acertada.
If The Narcissist Were Honest…
If The Narcissist Were Honest… If the narcissist were honest, they’d save you months. I don’t love you — I love being loved by you. I don’t ask for forgiveness — I ask for a reset. I don’t listen to you — I’m waiting for your turn to applaud me. And you stay there, measuring yourself by mirrors he hung. He shows up 40 minutes late, walks in with an “I’m inevitable” smile, and calls you sensitive for ruining the vibe.
Learn To Seduce Anyone
Seduction is making someone feel like they’re the only person who matters in that moment. Most people confuse seduction with physical attraction or superficial charm. They’re wrong. Seduction is subtle psychological control through creating emotional dependency. The most seductive people master three pillars: focused attention, strategic validation, and controlled scarcity. Focused attention means completely eliminating your internal monologue.
He thinks he’s satisfying you.
80% of women fake orgasms. And if you’re a guy reading this thinking “not with me,” sorry, but probably with you too. I used to fake religiously. With everyone. For years. Because it was easier than explaining that those 5 minutes of thrusting weren’t doing anything except boring me to death. Until I met this guy who changed everything. It wasn’t love, just sex. But it was sex like I’d never experienced. 30% of couples stop having sex after two years together. They just stop. Think it’s normal.
A Note To My Medium Readers
Medium is getting too small for what I want to build. I want a home where I control the relationship with readers — no algorithms fiddling in the background every time I publish. I want stability, flexible formats, and new ways to monetize my work clearly and fairly. So from now on I’ll publish more often on Substack. You’ll still get highlights and excerpts here on Medium — the essentials will live there. 👉 Follow me and get everything by email: aboutsex on Substack.
This Is What Makes a Man Marry a Woman
This Is What Makes a Man Marry a Woman I could stall. I won’t. A man marries when, looking at her, he feels peace in his head, heat in his body, and respect in his chest. All at once. No theatrics. No tutorial. It happens because she’s real-life concrete, not a filter. He doesn’t marry from fear of being alone. He marries when he realizes there’s home here. When her presence lowers the noise. When she doesn’t shrink him to feel bigger. When the bed isn’t a battlefield or a bargaining chip.
These Are the Signs Your Woman Doesn’t Respect You
These Are the Signs Your Woman Doesn’t Respect You Not to attack you, not to turn you against who you love. I’m writing because I’ve seen too many men wilt on the inside while smiling on the outside. Respect is oxygen. When it’s missing, your body copes for a while, then it starts to fail. And yes, there are women who love well and women who don’t respect. There’s everything in between. This is my read, not absolute truth, and I mess up too.
Should We Learn to Cheat Better?
I learned the rules, the code, no drama. Press enter or click to view image in full size It wasn’t an accident. I studied. Before touching another body, I wrote my code. Rule 1: I pick time and place. Rule 2: no selfies, no drunk confessions, no souvenirs. Rule 3: if I say “enough,” it’s over. Rule 4: nobody badmouths my husband. Our mess isn’t currency to buy arousal. It started with my boss. Monday, 9:47 p.m., empty open space, the city blinking outside.
Less Noise, More Consent And Desire
Turn Off The Feed, Fuck Better The noise out there is stealing your body from the inside. The more lives and drama you consume, the more turned-on your head gets and the more the rest checks out. Result? High anxiety, low touch, blurry boundaries. I want you back to basics: two people, one body each, simple rules, humor on point. What’s happening (no fluff): — Constant stimulation ↑ → cortisol ↑ → real arousal ↓. — Confusion between want and habit: swiping isn’t consenting.
“Your Stories Don’t Impress Anyone Anymore”
The people listening are too busy pretending they’ll never get old Press enter or click to view image in full size I got an email this week from a loyal reader here on Medium. He told me he was over 50, but didn’t say exactly how old. It didn’t matter. What he wrote carried the weight of decades. He wrote: “I realize now that when I speak, I don’t impress anyone anymore. The younger ones don’t want to listen because they’re in a rush to live, and the ones my age have already heard it all.
Trump jura que Se “não sabia”
Eu trouxe pipoca Press enter or click to view image in full size Não sou fã do cara , mas quando um presidente diz que "não sabia" por que Epstein estava "roubando" garotas do spa de Mar-a-Lago... Eu me sento, abro a pipoca e assisto ao circo. Sim, ele diz que não sabia na época e até afirma que o baniu depois. Que fofura. Relações públicas de talco de bebê. A parte "deliciosa" — se tivéssemos estômago para isso — é o detalhe administrativo: chamar isso de "roubo" de funcionários.
The Comfort of Familiar Shit
Going Back to Your Ex Is Like Eating Rotten Pizza. You Know It’s Gonna Fuck You Up, But You Bite Anyway Press enter or click to view image in full size Going back to your ex is the emotional equivalent of wearing dirty underwear because “no one will notice.” You know it’s wrong. You know it stinks. But there’s something about that familiar smell that feels less terrifying than trying something new. Here’s the ugly truth: loneliness is scarier than pain you already know.
Tinder, Bumble, Hinge… Call Them Whatever You Want, They’re All Just Meat Markets
Swiping isn’t romance, it’s consumption Press enter or click to view image in full size Dating apps are the biggest meat markets ever invented. I didn’t go there to find “the love of my life,” I went there to flip through a human catalog. Faces, filters, bios that sound like they were stolen off Pinterest. Everything shiny, everything with a hidden price tag. Swipe left, swipe right. Like walking down a grocery aisle — grab, discard, grab, discard. And the worst part? I thought I was in control.
Semi-Controversial Truths About Masculinity
No hand-holding. High respect. High heat. Press enter or click to view image in full size a man needs mission before applause. If the applause shows up first, it feels like pity. And pity burns. I learned this in real life — bills due, busted sinks, bodies that need touch, jobs that squeeze, beds that call. I’ve watched men get bigger with purpose — and shrink when people hand them comfort instead of challenge. Not movie heroes; real ones.
Why Are People Getting Dumber?
Feels like more folks argue just to argue. It’s not that people forgot how to think. They forgot wanting to think. That tiny shift is the whole plot. We argue to win, not to understand. You bring facts, they twist them. You share context, they yank the convo somewhere random to keep the ping-pong alive. Half the replies feel like a glitchy chatbot. That’s not an accident; it’s a habit. And habits train the brain the way a gym trains muscle.
What’s the Best Dating Advice You Ever Got?
If you’re trading peace to get company, that’s not love — that’s debt with interest. Press enter or click to view image in full size Dating is choosing, not begging. It’s not trophy hunting or a psych exam. It’s peace with skin. Chemistry with respect. Hard talks done early so they don’t turn into late resentment. The “best advice” rarely comes wrapped in pretty quotes. It shows up as clear boundaries and truths that sting now so they don’t wreck you later.
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