Author Melissa Hemphill with her then boyfriend, now husband, Anthony Hemphill and their first child, Oliver, in 2009. (Family photo) In 2009, I found myself at an impossible crossroads. I was a third-year cadet at the U.S. Air Force Academy, nationally ranked pole vaulter, pre-physical therapy student, high achiever in military leadership positions. And I was pregnant. My cadet boyfriend, now husband, Anthony Hemphill, and I never intended to start a family at the Air Force Academy.