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I Should Have Left The First Time He Knocked Me Down
It's October, Domestic Violence Awareness Month. About seven and a half years ago, or maybe a little more, my husband knocked me down for the very first time. I had just begun to identify his frequent tantrums and rage attacks as verbal abuse, and then made the smaller step toward realizing that it was emotionally abusive as well.
I Have Poor Judgment As A New Nurse - Not Sure How To Improve
You've packed a lot into one post. First, you called the physician without adequate vital signs, and you knew your equipment was faulty. You don't really know what her temperature was. You don't report vital signs unless you know (or have reason to believe) they're accurate. As far as the respiratory rate -- did you actually COUNT respirations? Or did you just write down 13-14 on every single patient because "that's the normal"?
October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month
October is Domestic Abuse Awareness Month -- And I’m Aware Nurses Can Be Abusers, Too I’ve been a nurse since 1978. I have also been married to two RNs, both men I dated for some time before marrying them. And both were abusive. I’ve worked with men who were abusive as well -- there was the charge nurse who threatened his wife with a loaded hand gun in front of their two children . . . and then went to jail for it.
Is Anonymity Important to You?
At Wrongway, I encouraged my co-workers/friends to get on allnurses and become members. They were active for a while, and included Sissybee, Jacob Rockstar-RN, and Ranger Rodd. Some wouldn't tell me their username, whereas others, like Rooty Payne, would merely read the threads and posts but did not become members. As I said in my previous post, I never used the real names of places or people. However, the fictitious people of the fictitious hospital Wrongway in the fictitious town of Eiffel Ill.
Were you a bully in high school?
I wasn't a bully and if someone tried to bully me I eventually stood up to them and they would back off. One boy in High School kept teasing me in Spanish class about something. Ignoring him didn't work, so finally one day I turned to him when he was teasing me and "At least I'm not fat like you are!" (He was overweight) Now I'm not into pointing out that people are overweight normally, but in this case it was the magic bullet.
"Thank you for your service"
7 hours ago, Emergent said: When people find out I'm a nurse these days, they keepthanking me for my service, like they do to the military. I want to roll my eyes at this point. Is this happening to you? I thank people every day! STILL!!! Last May during the height of the beginning covid pandemic, I was 911 admitted to 2 hospitals.
Merry Christmas from allnurses
Joyful like a tree, Radiant like a candle, Bright like a star... That's what you are! Merry Christmas with lots of love from allnurses.com. Click Like if you enjoyed it. Please share this with friends and post your comments below!
Is it wrong to stay in med-surg?
So, I have been an RN, BSN for 5 years. I did one year at a subacute rehab before transferring to a med-surg floor in the same health system. I really loved my floor, it was a small inter-City hospital that was kind of rough but I really enjoyed it and bonded well with all my coworkers under rough conditions.
Ethical Issues
5 minutes ago, caliotter3 said: Didn't you read the story about the woman in the NY park with her dog who became the center of a media doo doo storm and was fired from her vice president job at an investment firm because she lost control and called a black man "African American"? One of those Yahoo stories had about 15,000 plus comments the last time I looked. Any employer is able to can an employee for just about any reason (excluding a very few reasons forbidden under law) and that is that.
The Kindness Cure
Kindness vs. Incivility With the holidays approaching and another year coming to a close, this time spent with friends and family can serve as an opportunity to reflect on the power of kindness, which is badly needed in our contentious world today. Whether through the mediums of social media or television news as well as in our workplaces, homes, and relationships, we have all experienced the rising tide of incivility which seems to be sweeping over our nation.
Thoughts on being an old nurse in a new place
I remember what it was like to be a new nurse, being unsure of what or how to do whatever my patient needed. I jumped in and asked a lot of questions and for the most part, my more seasoned coworkers helped me out by guiding me to the appropriate solution. I learned by listening to and watching those nurses. There were a few nurses who were difficult, who didn't want to help a newbie out; I rapidly determined who those nurses were and didn't go to them with my questions or for guidance.
Code Green and Emotional Trauma: How Nurses Help
“Code Green 5th floor. Code Green 5th floor.” The hospital operator’s voice made my pulse skip a beat even though I was far from the announced location. Code Greens [in this case meaning a combative person who may be armed] have become more common as we face more crowds, more recreational drug users, and more angry, frustrated people in our facilities. As nurses, we are sometimes part of situations that lead to the dreaded “Code Green” announcement as we call out for the necessary help.
Nurses and Bullying: 4 Things You Can Do
Cindy was an older new grad. She went back to school after a long and successful career as a chemist, deciding that she wanted to be a nurse and explore other avenues of service for her “second half” of life. Capable and efficient in her first line of work, it was a shock to find herself as a novice where everything felt unfamiliar and where mastery was a ways off. Her first place of work was on a busy ortho floor. The second week at work, she called me crying. “Their expectations are so high.
10 Don'ts For Less Holiday Pressure
The pressure of the holiday season seems to begin building earlier each year. From holiday anticipation to New Year dread, a full range of emotions hits us before the first leaves fall. We barely make it through the marketing bombardment of all things pumpkin spice when the holiday displays go up in stores. Just think a minute about all the messages telling you how the holidays “should be”.
October is Breast Cancer Month -- and Domestic Violence
October is national Breast Cancer Awareness month. It’s also Domestic Violence Awareness month. I wish I wasn’t, but I am very aware of both. Running Away... Two years ago today, I was driving northwest and crying most of the way. I’d want to take the exit ramp -- nearly every exit ramp I passed -- and turn around and go back to my home, back to my husband. But I didn’t. That was unexpectedly strong of me, because going back would have made things far worse for me.
Ask Me If I'm Safe At Home
My husband and I shared the same PCP. After my first visit to the practice, no one ever asked me again whether I was safe at home. I wasn’t. But no one asked because everyone had met my husband, the handsome, charming life of the party. The guy that everyone liked. They all “knew” I was safe at home because he was “such a nice guy.” They knew him, you see. A nice guy like him couldn’t possibly be an abuser. They only met Dr. Jekyll. I lived with Mr. Hyde.
And The Reason Nurses Don't Get Fired
2 minutes ago, caliotter3 said: More than once, I have noticed a pattern of a 'queen b...' nurse who runs off the new nurses, usually quite blatantly, with the employer's not always tacit agreement. Why would she do this? Of course! Look at the schedule she is protecting, not to mention the cozy little set-up she has with the (extended care) client family. Agencies just love to protect and nurture these little empire hell hole cases.
Reasons nurses get fired
I'm really sorry you were terminated from your position. It's never a good feeling---and you always blame or question yourself, whether you "did harm" or "did something illegal" or not. In "Right to Work" states, and pretty much any other employment situation outside of having a union---you can get fired for any reason, any time.
New grad nurse needs help giving report
14 hours ago, Emergent said: I'm surprised that ED nurses are the ones complaining since, much more than other specialties, we seem to be most able to 'start from scratch'. I'm not the best at oral presentations, which is basically what report is, a mini speech about the patient. But my fellow ED nurses aren't picky. It's those obsessively detailed ICU nurses who relish picking apart a hand off. I think they just probably enjoy criticizing the newbie. Be patient, they get over it.
Constant interruptions
The Professional Practice Committee at Kaiser South San Francisco hospital worked out a way to avoid unnecessary interruptions in 2007. It is still in effect. Several of those nurses are my friends. Quote Decreasing Disruptions Reduces Medication Errors Nurses at Kaiser South San Francisco Medical Center wear sashes or vests to reduce disruptions when passing meds.
Anyone every work 24 hours a week? (2 12s) is it doable?
I worked five 8's for a few years before I happened into 12 hr shifts, which I liked a whole lot. I then worked 3-12's (36hrs) for almost 20 years and it was quite doable, even took full-time hours at school to get my RN to BSN and had minimal issues (online, so no set class meeting times). Then I got into my current graduate program which was beyond intense and I had to cut to part-time, or 2-12's a week.
New grad RN, absolutely hate nursing
I am a new RN, graduated in dec 2018. I am starting my first RN job this month as a surgery float. Im from Canada so I did a 10 week preceptorship at the end of my degree. I really really dislike nursing. To be clear, i enjoyed the academic part - i like science and learning and i did well in the academic part. It was clinicals i hated. I realized this more than halfway through my degree but I didnt want to quit and i naively thought id somehow like it by the end.
STOP Measles: Nurses on Alert
Looking through my Facebook posts the other night, I noticed our friendly local pediatrician had posted a photo of herself in the protective garb associated with examining someone with measles. It looked a little like a space suit and reminded the viewers of her site of the potential dangers associated with the current active measles cases in our country. The outbreaks of measles around the country, particularly in the New York area and in California are alarming.
Brand New Nurse: A Graduate Nurse Tells Her Story
Spending time with Luisa Carvajal, GN, was a real treat. She job shadowed me for the day to learn what Faith Community Nurses do. In the course of the day, we talked about her plans, her new job, her hopes and her concerns. Q: As you start your career, what would you like to say to all other nurses? A: We all had to start here. At some point we were all a Student Nurse and a Graduate Nurse. I know it’s tough to be patient. I know it has to be difficult but you also had to learn.
You Misspelled "Domestic Violence"
Share Article I was sitting in the doctor’s office with my husband of nearly 20 years, and he was asking to be put on anti-depressants again. He had been on anti-depressants for years, but had unaccountably stopped taking them after he retired. His depression had always manifested as anger. At this point, I wasn’t sure that his behavior changes were completely related to depression, but as they had coincided with being off the anti-depressants, I thought it was worth considering.
Gonna Quit: When Nursing Is Rough...
My friend texted me a short note that spoke volumes, “Gonna quit. Just can’t handle this anymore. Work here is too hard. Help!” I read her note with sadness and tried to respond with a word of encouragement that might last longer than the appearance of the emoticon on her screen. Getting discouraged in our work as nurses happens to all of us from time to time. Studies show that nurses change jobs more than other professionals.
Seasoned Nurses VS Newbie Nurses
As I've stated in multiple other posts, I am a new grad in the ER. As a new grad, I do not possess the EXPERIENCE that a seasoned nurse has; however, I have noticed that many seasoned nurses are not up to date with new standards that were taught to us in school. How can one bridge the gap between old knowledge vs newer knowledge? Here is a perfect example.
Domestic Violence: "Are You Safe At Home?"
I was taken by surprise by the question, although I shouldn't have been. As a nurse, I know it's a standard question on the standard intake forms, although it is often skipped over and almost always asked without expectation of a real answer. And because I wasn't prepared to answer, I gave the truthful answer and then burst into tears. No. I wasn't safe at home. In fact, I was so unsafe that I had walked away with what I could carry -- and my dog.
Verbal Abuse Is Abuse Too!
I've posted about my abusive ex-husband, about the time he tried to strangle me and about what leaving him was like. I've posted about physically abusive relationships, and even alluded to my more recent struggle. I often see people posting in response that what they're going through "isn't as bad" as what I went through because it's "just" verbal abuse. And that is what is so horrible about verbal abuse.
The Bravest Thing I've Ever Done
In 2012, I was diagnosed with breast cancer. From the moment I was diagnosed, I was never in doubt about the next step. The first step was to call a surgeon, and here are some recommendations. At the surgeon's office, I was presented with a plan (and two back-up plans in case the first one was too awful to contemplate) and a Nurse Coordinator to help me follow the steps and negotiate the health care system.
Addressing the Predicted Nursing Shortage
allnurses.com staffers were recently fortunate to interview Audrey Wirth, MSN, RN-BC, CVRN-BC adjunct clinical instructor at Aurora University's School of Nursing and Allied Health. She has published in the Journal of Nursing Administration and Nursing.com as well as a presentation training the trainer for end of life care. We discussed the predicted nursing shortage.
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