In a dysfunctional family (or country), there’s often one person who creates all the drama. Family therapists call this the “identified patient.” Sometimes it’s a raging teenager, or a father who drinks too much. This person gets a lot of attention, understandably. But their antics tend to distract everyone (including the therapist) from other, deeper problems in the family. In my family, my mother was the identified patient. She was the one who dictated the mood of the household, up or down.