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Andrea Javor

(She/Her)
Chicago
As seen in: The New York Times, Yahoo Life, HuffPost, The Guardian, The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, Los Angeles Times, Newsweek, Slate, TODAY and
Covers:  poker, divorce, stepparenting, relationships, love, genX, restless legs syndrome, weight loss, moving
Marketing executive, poker player, working on my memoir. Read my work in @guardian @washingtonpost @newsweek @huffpost @slate. Opinions are mine.
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What Getting Divorced in My 20s Taught Me About Love

What Getting Divorced in My 20s Taught Me About Love

Vogue — When I was growing up in the 1990s, getting married wasn't an "if" in the Midwest, but a "when"-and "divorce" was practically a curse word. Despite the statistics even then, I felt wildly entitled to a love story, and blissfully ignorant that it could one day end.
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How to cope when you're sharing a home with your soon-to-be ex-spouse

How to cope when you're sharing a home with your soon-to-be ex-spouse

The Washington Post — One recently divorced woman said her spouse wedged a mattress from her bedroom halfway down the stairs while she was watching TV at night.
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I Found Power, Confidence And Calm At A Poker Table Full Of Men

I Found Power, Confidence And Calm At A Poker Table Full Of Men

HuffPost — Anxiety is an asset that lingers in my personal branding kit. As a 45-year-old twice-divorced diabetic who doesn’t own a home and can’t have children, my inner voice is constantly suggesting I am not enough. Maybe it was my competitive upbringing where the family motto of “play to win, don’t have fun” was only partially a joke.
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I clock up to 20,000 steps a night: my life with restless legs syndrome

I clock up to 20,000 steps a night: my life with restless legs syndrome

The Guardian — I’d always known something was wrong with my legs. When I was a teenager, my best friend and I shared her full-sized bed – she would wake me up, giggling: “Lying next to you is like trying to sleep through an earthquake!” Now I’m 45, and my boyfriend says the same thing.
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I Thought My Husband's Ex Hated Me. Then She Called And Asked A Question I Never Saw Coming.

I Thought My Husband's Ex Hated Me. Then She Called And Asked A Question I Never Saw Coming.

HuffPost — At the advice of a child psychologist, my boyfriend of six months put a picture of us in his apartment so his three young kids — twin boys (almost 6) and his daughter (barely 4) — could ask questions about me. I carried interminable energy to solidify this potential family for myself. I didn’t, however, consider how to incorporate their mom into my life.
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Perspective | What is Mother's Day to a former stepmom? More than I thought it would be.

Perspective | What is Mother's Day to a former stepmom? More than I thought it would be.

The Washington Post — A lasting connection to my ex-husband's children and, unexpectedly, to his other ex-wife.
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I learned poker and applied it to dating-I found love

I learned poker and applied it to dating-I found love

Newsweek — The skills I learned could have saved me from heartbreak.
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I've Been Divorced Twice. I Have a Simple Trick for Deflecting Nosy Questions About It.

I've Been Divorced Twice. I Have a Simple Trick for Deflecting Nosy Questions About It.

Slate — After my second divorce, I needed to deflect busybodies.
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Advice | How to cope with restless legs while traveling

Advice | How to cope with restless legs while traveling

The Washington Post — Nearly 12 million people in the United States deal with restless legs syndrome, and travel in particular is known to exacerbate the condition.
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The unique pain of being an almost-mom on Mother's Day

The unique pain of being an almost-mom on Mother's Day

TODAY — I inhaled before the tears welled. I wanted to tell him I was always sure I’d be a mom, but at age 44 all I had to show for it was two divorces and one miscarriage. How could I explain to him that I sort of was a mom once? And, of all days, he shouldn’t ask me about being a mom on Mother’s Day.
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I Paid Someone $15,000 To Help Me Find The Right Man. I Was Shocked By What She Taught Me.

I Paid Someone $15,000 To Help Me Find The Right Man. I Was Shocked By What She Taught Me.

HuffPost — Does anyone really know how to successfully date? How do we know if the valuable, vulnerable time we spend putting our best self out there will lead to a committed relationship? In the wake of 20 years of being involved with the wrong men, I found myself at age 40 with two divorces and a defeatist outlook on dating.
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I changed my name for both of my failed marriages. I'm never doing it again.

I changed my name for both of my failed marriages. I'm never doing it again.

Business Insider — When I faced the inevitability of divorce for a second time, I was forced to deconstruct the life I built with my ex-husband and his three kids. I sold the dream house and moved into a stark and empty condo. I hired another lawyer, booked sessions with my therapist, and found a support group.
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We call ourselves 20-40-60. How an intergenerational friend group changed my life

We call ourselves 20-40-60. How an intergenerational friend group changed my life

TODAY — My nerves buzzed as I waited for my 23-year-old friend I’d never met in person to join me for dinner. Standing in line at a trendy Italian restaurant in New York City's Greenwich Village, I caught a glimpse of my 45-year-old self in a store window. I shifted my dress and attempted to muffle my Chicago accent even as I mouthed nervously to myself, what if we have nothing to talk about?
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I learned from my mistakes. To be a good stepmother, you must first love the kids' mom.

I learned from my mistakes. To be a good stepmother, you must first love the kids' mom.

Business Insider — It never works out well for the stepmom in fairy tales, but I found a way to debunk that myth.
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How to Remain Present at Work During a Divorce | SUCCESS

How to Remain Present at Work During a Divorce | SUCCESS

Success Magazine — The average American divorce can take anywhere from a few months to a year, according to LegalZoom—but your career won’t wait while you navigate the legal, emotional and logistical realities of this challenging time. As a professional, you’ll still be expected to produce business results, regardless of what’s happening at home.
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I've been divorced twice, and now I'm finally in a healthy relationship at 44. Here's how I shift...

I've been divorced twice, and now I'm finally in a healthy relationship at 44. Here's how I shift...

Business Insider — By the time I turned 40, I always thought I'd be settled into a cozy suburban home with a handsome husband and two kids. But that's not how my life turned out.
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Hear Me Out! The Second Gentleman Is A First-Class Hottie

Hear Me Out! The Second Gentleman Is A First-Class Hottie

Betches — Doug Emhoff is being called a "sex symbol" and I agree. Hear me out! Here's why the first gentleman is the ideal partner.
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After 2 divorces before 40, I learned a powerful lesson about attracting love

After 2 divorces before 40, I learned a powerful lesson about attracting love

TODAY — It sounded like a scam. I was on the cusp of shelling out a large sum of money for someone who wasn’t going to scour the market and actually find me a healthy relationship, but rather would highlight my epic blunders in the quest for love.
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How I've Coped With a Common Sleep Condition Many Doctors Don't Take Seriously: Restless Legs Syn...

How I've Coped With a Common Sleep Condition Many Doctors Don't Take Seriously: Restless Legs Syn...

Well+Good — For two decades I’ve engaged in truly odd behavior to quell a mysterious problem: At night, my legs just won’t settle. Instead, they twitch, jerk, shake, and move, all while my mind and body writhe with exhaustion. I’ve done lunges in the galley of an airplane. I’ve paced back and forth on video conference calls in my home office. I’ve sobbed at night, hours past my planned bedtime, desperate for anything to make it stop.
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I felt isolated in shame after learning I had diabetes. Doing my insulin shots in public helped m...

I felt isolated in shame after learning I had diabetes. Doing my insulin shots in public helped m...

Business Insider — I felt ashamed when I was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes. Doing insulin shots in public helped me accept my diagnosis.
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The Troubling News With Restless Legs Syndrome

The Troubling News With Restless Legs Syndrome

Next Avenue — I've had a problem with my legs that's difficult to describe. Even though my body and mind are exhausted, I have this unrelenting urge to move around in the evenings.
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Reader Bites: Smoked brisket taco at Antique Taco in Bridgeport - Chicago Reader

Reader Bites: Smoked brisket taco at Antique Taco in Bridgeport - Chicago Reader

Chicago Reader — Beyond the spicy, savory meat in this overstuffed pocket from heaven, I find eternal romance as onions, cilantro, and both yellow and orange cheeses mingle in the hearty shell for perfect, uniform bites.
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A Deeper Look at Professional Women in the Cannabis Industry

A Deeper Look at Professional Women in the Cannabis Industry

Coveteur — Cannabis offers multiple entry points for women with varied backgrounds-from VC investor to retail operator to cultivator to local budtender-and women in these roles are making an impact using inherent empathic leadership skills. Read more about female professionals in cannabis here.
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