Men and women process feelings in different ways, and as partners we need to learn how to leverage these differences. What I thought I knew about being a good husband turned out to be the thing keeping my wife from feeling close to me. John Gray wrote Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, which sold over 50 million copies in 45 languages, and he's been counseling couples for 45 years. So when he talks about why modern relationships keep breaking down, I listen.