I’m a 46 yr old gay man who recently got out of the grips of a narcissist. Never in a million years would I have thought Id go through this. “That kind of thing doesn’t happen to me.”“That’s something you only see in movies or on Dateline**.”** We tell ourselves these things. We convince ourselves that monsters aren’t real — or if they are, they’ll never come for us. I used to believe that too. Until it happened to me. I kept a lot hidden from my friends because I was trying to protect him.