I’m not against marriage, a part of me really wants to be good at it, but I know myself well enough to realise that it may not be for us. And that’s okay. Psychotherapist Esther Perel says there are two types of people in the world: realists and romantics. Realists believe in marriage and are unlikely to leave. On the other hand, romantics desire nothing more than romance and passion (and will seek it out if it fades). Both can be critical of the other.