No One Understood Her Grief, So She Took It Online On “grieftok,” some influencers have amassed large followings by sharing their experiences with unimaginable loss. Kait Granger felt like she was “rotting away” after her mother was killed. TikTok became an outlet for expressing the grief she couldn’t share in real life, she said.Credit...Julia Rendleman for The New York Times June 3, 2026, 5:00 a.m. ET Kait Granger grew up learning to read cues.