There are many things that define the modern wedding: unusual venues, humanist ceremonies, sharing food plates, portable pizza ovens, but having your children from either your current or prior relationship is also one of them. For some, this may be a perfect storm of elements. Lots of stress, a huge performance, trying to be, for just once at least, the centre of attention. Kids don’t tend to want to be sidelined so how do you have the time of your life, and include them in it?