Joan Jerkovich

Your first date was amazing until you find out they just got out of a long-term relationship — and you're their first date after their breakup. If red flags go up for you upon learning this, you're on the right track. While data shows that rebound relationships can be great for the person who is on the rebound, . While it can feel thrilling, because not only is it a crush (which is always fun), your new crush may be self-medicating ... and you're more of a "treatment" than a romantic partner.

Older generations spend so much time looking for ways to be happy and trying to find a shortcut to happiness that we don't even realize when we've missed the mark. Instead of focusing on the internal things we can change to get to feel happier and get to our happy place, we let outside sources dictate how happy we feel.

Sometimes it all looks so good in the beginning, but then things start to unravel. You may even feel "crazy" when for seemingly no reason, what looked perfect becomes a chaotic mess. You stop and think, "Why is this happening to me?" Or, if it's the relationship of someone else, you wonder what they were hiding all along. No, you're not crazy — and the person whose relationship seemed great may not have been lying. There are likely very good reasons a relationship that looks perfect falls apart.