Every day gay and bisexual men all over the world have had similar situations to what Dr Kort has described. 33-year-old tarot reader, Leigh Edwards from Wales, thought there was something wrong with him because the thought of anal sex didn’t appeal to him at all. After talking to friends and dealing with some questionable experiences with unwilling guys, Leigh has become unashamed of being a side and is flourishing. “I had one experience before where I was ghosted because I said I was a side.