These are independent reviews of the products mentioned, but TIME receives a commission when purchases are made through affiliate links at no additional cost to the purchaser. By Kelly Conniff November 13, 2024 8:15 AM EST No one likes to think of themself as someone who can be easily fooled. And that’s especially true of Anna Akbari, a sociologist and former New York University professor who met a man who called himself Ethan on the dating site OKCupid in 2010.