It doesn’t start with a massive, dramatic confrontation. It happens in the micro-moments of a completely ordinary conversation. You share a story about your day, show them a project you’ve been working on, or simply dress up a little before a night out. On the surface, you are just sharing your life. But right beneath the surface, a hidden antenna is extended, vibrating with a silent, heavy question: Do you like this? Was that good enough? Am I doing okay? Then comes the response.