By Dr Miriam Stoppard | Published - 14 May 2026 I am a gay man in my fifties and I have recently met a much younger partner who I adore. He is an actor and earns much less than me, and my flat is much nicer than his, so we spend all our time at my home. I have had a very successful career in finance and can afford to cover our costs, and am beginning to think about asking him to move in with me. However all my friends are cautioning against it, saying he is a “freeloader” and can’t be trusted.