As a teenager in West Hempstead, NY, on Long Island, Oliver Paneth loved spending time at their family’s shul and was a popular babysitter in the Orthodox community. They also attended Yeshiva University High School for Girls in Queens. “I was never the girlie girl, I was way more into sports,” recalls Paneth, whose gentle round face is fringed with a wispy brown beard. “I thought I was gay, and that was what was different about me, and then I went to college and met other trans people.