When Samir came home in April, he asked his parents for $100,000 to pay off his gambling debts. “People are after me. You don’t know. I’m in deep (expletive),” his mother, Tara, said he told her. “I’m not gonna be alive tomorrow. Either they’re gonna kill me or I’m gonna jump off the balcony.” This was the fourth time Samir had asked his parents for money. They had said yes before, giving him more than $60,000 the past few years to pay his bills, pay off his credit cards and cover his rent.