Tafazal Mohammed

In recent times, there has been a noticeable increase in the number of Muslim couples seeking marriage support. Whilst this is a positive trend, it is not at the scale we need to see. Unfortunately, what we observe in our work is that 95% of the effort in seeking help comes from women. When men do get involved, it is often because they are either ‘dragged’ to attend a call or given an ultimatum of divorce. This is an unhealthy situation for any community, let alone the Muslim community.

This piece of writing delves into a stimulating discussion between me and another academician centred on the Quranic verse 10: 41, and its potential applications in addressing contemporary ethical issues. In the face of disagreement, the verse suggests a position of detachment and non-engagement. The discussion ranges from human rights to LGBTQ rights to tolerance and the ethical responsibility of individuals and communities.

As an award-winning relationship coach, I’ve witnessed the pivotal role friendship plays in fostering connection and enhancing intimacy within marriage. That’s one reason why my wife Victoria and I include it in our Thrive program for couples. The Gottman Institute underscores the pivotal role of friendship as the foundation of a strong and lasting relationship.