Welcome back to gal-dem’s monthly gender column Against the binary, bringing you Yas Necati’s latest reflections on finding gentleness, home and joy as a trans person. I never thought I would be comfy taking my clothes off in public, but there I was on a beach of a small Welsh city with no swimsuit and a very strong desire to get in the sea. Stripped down to my boxers, I ran into the ocean and was immediately engulfed by waves.