Elisa Reiter, with Calabrese Budner, left, and professor Daniel Pollack, with Yeshiva University's Wurzweiler School of Social Work, right. Courtesy photos Belle Burden writes in "Strangers: A Memoir of Marriage": I hope because I was open about what happened to me, my children will insist on intimacy, on knowing their partner deeply, on being known deeply. I hope they will talk to their partners about money, about what will happen if the partnership ends.