Maxine Langdon Starr

One of the loftiest goals of many women is to learn how to stop caring so much about what people think of us — even when research has proven that people actually don't think about us nearly as much as we think they do. But even for the most successful among us, it can be challenging. People's words can hurt sometimes, and it can feel exhausting when you can't stop worrying about what people think of you. For our ancestors, being judged favorably meant a higher chance of survival within the group.

It isn’t hard to look around our modern-day culture and find a plethora of help-rejecting complainers. They expect a lot and yet give so little in return — without ever changing their ways. They whine, complain, argue, belittle, and bully. A help-rejecting complainer is all complaints and has no substance, only judgment and projection. They wait around and expect people to cater to them and be a therapist to them.

You already know other people's lives aren't perfect, but do you truly believe it? By Maxine Langdon Starr Last updated on Feb 27, 2024 Photo: Jacob Lund, Tais Bernabe, Olga Murasheva | Canva If you're using social media, you may feel like we are all living in separate fishbowl, isolated but living a way-too-public life. There have been studies and data that say we are more unhappy when we spend lots of time on social media versus out in real life. Why?