Dear Friends, I’ve been quietly working on this book for four years, and I am thrilled to finally be able to share it with you. If You Love That Lady is my third book, and it’s an ode to every writer’s invention of love and the beloved. It’s also about the sometimes-wrong invention of this country, and how we quietly safeguard ourselves against it and stay human. In 2021, I came across a letter written by John Miller, a pastor, to Sally McDowell, ex-wife of the former governor of Baltimore.