Care and Feeding Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. Have a question for Care and Feeding? Submit it here. Dear Care and Feeding, I’m 16 and worried about my young cousin’s future. She recently turned 4 and lives with my extended family, many of whom do not have a college education (and some with no education beyond eighth grade). Help! My Husband Just Seriously Violated Me in Front of Our Children. He Doesn’t Think He’s Done Anything Wrong. My Beloved Wife Died.