Roxy Bourdillon (Image: Provided) Like all great epiphanies, it happens in a sex club. I’m with my gal pal, Bessie, on a short summer getaway to Berlin. It’s her birthday and her birthday wish is to visit a den of iniquity. Bessie has read about this place online and her heart is set on a scandalous night of debauchery. We’re queuing up outside the venue, an innocuous concrete slab of a building covered in graffiti.