Dear Eric: Twenty years ago, I found myself a part of a group that initially started as a bunch of gym buddies. I was brought inside the circle by the “leader,” i.e., the one who initiates and makes plans. Since the pandemic, the gatherings outside the gym (parties, social meetups) have increased a great deal. I feel resistance to our leader, who solely determines the theme, the food, the activities and the dress code for the parties or events.