What Happens When a Woman Finally Puts Herself First Not a wellness guide. Not a listicle. Just one woman’s honest account of the guilt, the joy, and the quiet revolution of choosing yourself after four decades. Press enter or click to view image in full size Photo by Jan Kopřiva on Unsplash There is a photograph of me from about three years ago. I am at a birthday party, my one year old balanced on my hip, phone in my other hand, mid-sentence in what was probably a work call. I am smiling.