You have reached your maximum number of saved items. Remove items from your saved list to add more. A few months ago, Bianka Ismailovski was seated at what would have been a forgettable dinner party in Melbourne had she not spent 40 minutes being called selfish by a table of people she had just met. “It was just so crazy,” says the 36-year-old comedian and writer. “So crazy and rude.” At issue was a choice Ismailovski had made more than five years prior, following the breakdown of her marriage.