The first thing guests were offered at Hana Lee and Ishan Chaudhary’s wedding in Seattle was not a programme, but a choice between ceremonial matcha and chai. Before the baraat, before the vows, before the Paebaek inside the greenhouse, the couple began with the simplest form of welcome they could imagine: something warm to hold, drawn from both sides of the family. The couple, both professionals in the United States, grew up across Asia, Australia and North America.