Perfectionism is a trait people typically develop early in life, but you can loosen its hold at any age. The following strategies can help you find the middle place. 1) TRY THERAPY. As a clinician, Hewitt has seen many perfectionists move away from their ingrained behavior patterns and toward happier lives through psychotherapy. Interestingly, patients often come to him seeking help for another issue, such as anxiety, depression, isolation, or a perceived failure.