(Aging Untold) — If you’ve noticed an older parent or family member starting conversations with “Sorry to interrupt” or “Sorry to bother you,” you’re not alone. This pattern of apologizing before asking for help is common among older adults. Excessive apologizing is often a signal that someone needs help but doesn’t want to ask for it directly, the Aging Untold experts say. Amy O’Rourke, an aging expert, said that many older adults never thought they’d be in a position where they needed assistance.